Updated: Dec 31, 2018
Are you one of those individuals who can do it all by yourself? If so, congratulations. Early in my life I used to be like you. Even when I participated in team sports, I felt it was up to me to ensure the team would win. Then one day I learned a very valuable lesson, that you have more power and influence when you receive help from others and, in turn, offer to help others. If you have read any of my other pontification, you have an inkling that I am a strong proponent of teamwork.
When would you profit from some else’s help? Is it finding a new job? Writing a book? Getting over a loss? Having a sensitive conversation with a co-worker? Moving to a new home? Help with dishes? Whether it is a major event or a simple task, it’s usually more fun and efficient when you have help. Different personality types feel very differently about asking for help.
You may fall into one of the following categories.
You ask for help when you need it.
You are more comfortable helping others.
You are unwilling to request help, even when you really need it.
You are upset when you are unable to help someone you know really needs it.
You can benefit by helping and supporting others to pursue their dreams. Conversely, you can benefit when you share your dream with others who could help you attain it. Feel comfortable knowing that others will be eager to help you when you need it.
Appreciate that many people will welcome your help and wish to return the favor. Use your many strengths and talents to help others to maneuver through life’s challenges. Many of us feel an obligation to help those who are less successful than we are.
How do you feel about asking for help from others? Do you believe improving this skill would be useful?